Ahh, sometimes decisions are tough. I am in a quandary here over whether or not to be in the choir I sing with this quarter or not. The baby we will hopefully adopt is due in March. This is also concert month and this quarter we are doing Verdi's requium. (something I don't want to miss) I"m a little torn. I don't want my life to stop but I also don't want to have to drop out half way through the quarter or right before the show either. I sometimes wish for a crystal ball. We are hopefully going to be in contact with the birth mother over the Thanksgiving holidays while we are in Wisconsin but one never knows. I am hoping we get a better feel for whether or not this will happen. Still waiting for the bio father to agree to all this.
Advice or input is requested over this one.
Another adoption!
14 years ago
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I understand the feeling. The whole time we were going through infertility treatments, I just wished someone could tell me when it would happen, then I'd be better.
My advice - first, see if you do get a chance to talk to birth mom - maybe you will get your answer while you are in WI. If not, I think you should go ahead and join the choir. I hope and pray that this adoption goes through, and if it does, I'm sure that everyone will understand why you would need to drop out.
How is the choir when it comes to a few absences for family needs? Will you have other things in your schedule that you will need to juggle in addition to a baby and choir? How often does the choir meet?
Is it the time that you might have to take off to adopt the baby or the time you would take away from being with your baby should you adopt
Trust me.. it is good to have something for your self (self care) when you are a parent.
And if you need to drop out, it is ok. It is better to do than wish you did... especially when it comes to the waiting game... because what if you don't and the baby arrives after the concert?
Ok, that's my two cents.
I'd say join the choir. Nothing is certain, and you have to take care of yourself through all of this. I agree that the choir would understand if you need to drop out. You might even find that you can juggle both! I don't know how much time the choir practice takes up, but I do know that new parents need the occasional break to keep from the crazies.
Best of luck...I'm pulling for you.
Michelle
Ditto. Join the choir. It'll help with the waiting game in the interim. I think it makes the most sense regardless of what happens. I'm sure they'd be understanding about everything.
And it's hard to turn down singing a good Requiem. Because you mentioned it, while doing my busy work today I'm listening to a youtube playlist of John Rutter's Requiem which I sang in choir. Love it so much. (Having to resist urge to sing out loud. Don't think coworkers would appreciate so much...)
Hey all, thanks for the input! I am not so much concerned with "fitting" in choir when we have a baby because Paul is so supportive I"m sure that he will be ok with watching the baby for evening rehearsals. What I was mainly concerned about was having to leave during concert week for the birth. If this works out, we'd like to be there as soon as humanly possible during/after the birth.
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